I don’t think there is a single walk, a linear path that any single one of us is meant to take in our life. Plato’s concept of reincarnation where we select our parents and the life we want to live based of preordained stories; I don’t think that’s exactly how it goes. Don’t take my word for it, I don’t know and I’ve been wrong before on even less important things. So if at the end of my days I encounter vast pools of swirling images showing all these lives where I am to choose my reincarnated destiny; I will smile and say, ‘oh, so this was it, pretty cool.’
Although, interestingly enough; through the trials, successes and failures of my story, I’m starting to feel like some things are fated. Events, challenges, successes, hardships, etc. I think those ‘turning points’, those ‘life altering events’, I think that those are meant to happen when they do. Maybe that’s why they always seem to happen at the best/worst possible times. Never in that middle ‘anything could’ve happened’ time, no. Like life giving you the ‘okay, you are strong enough to handle this, so here is some hardship’ or ‘you have put a lot into your life, so here is fruitful reward’. It seems to be the case, at least for me – maybe I’m lucky =) because I do consider it luck.
Have you ever met someone that you felt had a purpose? Someone that you were so convinced was put on this earth to be exactly where they were, at that exact moment in time, doing exactly what they were doing? I’ve had that pleasure a few times. Some people call them guardian angels, some call them messengers of fate, others just call them people; I suppose. I’ll tell you about one;
Once upon a time, I was a 17 year car-guy at a local stop and shop. It was snowing and about a foot had accumulated on the ground. They were sending a lot of people home, but I was too valuable to leave because no one wanted to go outside. I didn’t mind, I like the cold.
A woman comes out with her groceries, kindly walks me the cart (a cart-guys favorite thing aside from bringing it back yourself lol) and says ‘stay warm’. She hops in a large ford van and drives away. I stood outside realizing that it was a bit too cold for even my liking, and I wish I had a hot chocolate; I was recently turned onto the 7-11 ones by a girlfriend at the time. Next thing I know, the van pulls up next to me, reaches out an arm and hands me a hot chocolate from 7-11 saying, ‘I was getting one for myself, thought you could use it.’
Years go by, I’m 22, my friend and I started an in-home computer service and I was in charge of getting the clientele coming in. A neighbor was my first customer. She was nice, but I couldn’t charge her full price, she was absolutely wonderful my entire life. She recommended a friend to me who she described as a ‘hard ass’, but a customer. I get the information, schedule a time to come out (she was intense on the phone so already I was nervous). With the stress of a new-business owner, having no money otherwise, first learning the tech industry and new to professionalism in general, the door opens and sure enough – it’s Mrs. Hot Chocolate, who immediately remembered me. I thanked her profusely for that time ad after I was done gave her a discount (which I couldn’t afford, but felt was 100% necessary). I got back into my car, thinking about how screwed I was because of the discount I gave and she came following out, gave me a generous tip and the phone numbers of my next two customers that became frequent flyers.
There were two other eerie, yet remarkable interactions with this one woman – absolutely incredible! These were just some of my many appreciated chance happenings of many people that were exactly in the right place at the right time – for me. Yes, it’s not all about me, but my story has this perspective (there it is again!).
Anyway, I would love to hear about your ‘messengers of fate’ and how they impacted your life. I don’t mind if it’s your spouse, your kids, whatever – share it with me in the comments please =)