I’ve watched people; friends and strangers in my life make mistakes. I think we all have had first hand accounts of people that ruin a quality job opportunity, a loving relationship, etc. and maybe we are involved or maybe not, but I have always been one to take it in. Add some knowledge to my ‘Life Experiences’ folder on ways to better my own life adventure or at least know ways not to spoil it. Today I am speaking broadly.
I have had friends that listen when I am going through rough patches in life. I am eternally grateful to those who share their own wisdom and to those that silently allow me to vent. I have had many people tell me, partially out of an unfamiliarity to the situation or perhaps out of a lesser concern to dwell on it, “I just want you to be happy” or “You have to do what makes you happy”. And while I find it supportive, I’ve also find it wildly unhelpful. I mean, duh- what friend doesn’t? And if I knew what made me happy I would strive for it. Or just because I feel an impulse right now doesn’t mean fulfilling it will bring me long term happiness; hell it could ruin something beautiful acting on impulse.
Recently, I have had some unusual circumstances where a friend has steered me towards something I had never heard of, but apparently is quite common. Someone like myself who views all information as a ‘good to know’ did some research and found overwhelming knowledge on The 7 Year Itch. That’s a great article at that link. I had never heard of it no less that it was so painfully frequent and I wonder if that is because not a lot of people are open about their feelings or unconscious to what they are going through until they are summing it up with ‘my life is terrible’ or ‘my partner is stressful/crazy’ etc. Fortunately, I have had some great people that have been there for me so far and I know there are many more wondrous soul that would be if they only knew.
I recently also stumbled across a board game designed as a self-growth and relationship building game called; Better Me. It is very interesting and I think could be something wonderful with the right group of open minded individuals. Part of me recognizes that maybe in a way this was my reaching out for help. Not to say I wouldn’t play or be open if I was feeling ‘100% M.C.’, because I have only been in this rut for the past few months and I am always looking to better and invest into myself. No, I think I setup the initial gathering hope to have a breakthrough; even if only for myself. I played with some stunning individuals that are intelligent and familiar with one another, but the game simply isn’t for everyone. Hell, I’ve been told I am a big presence and I’m sure my chaotic energy is throwing rooms off balance. When I play again, I will do better and I will invite people who want to better themselves as well.
I remember a moment, back when I was 17 and upset about a relationship. The stresses of my teenage life were enough to be depressed and at the time I was scanning groceries at the local stop and shop. Someone on my line noticed I was feeling upset and reached out, asking if I was okay. I told them a summarized version and this person, while thoughtful, was also in a dark place and; said ‘One day at a time. Just take one day at a time and you’ll get through any hard situation.’ That became my slogan for a while and I never realized how much it helped. Short sighted? Sure, but when you’re trudging through the pitfalls of life’s swamps, every step is exhausting and if nothing else you know; I can’t stay here. As Rodney Atkins would say, “If you’re going through hell, keep on going.”
So I want you to know, whoever you are and whatever you are going through; you are not alone. Whatever challenges you are going through, you will get through them. If you need someone to talk to, message me. I’m not perfect – nowhere near, and I certainly don’t know everything, but I will do my best to help you find happiness without giving you anything wildly unhelpful. And while this is a lousy time of year to be facing struggles where you’re feeling alone, try to embrace some Christmas spirit; it just may cheer you up, if only for one day at a time.
Merry Christmas to all who celebrate.